Black men who proudly don’t date black women tend to be…toxic in other ways
And that feels like an understatement?
i realized something about black men who make it well known that they don't date black women: they have other terrible qualities. i understand that announcing you would never date a black woman is bad enough alone but I've never met a black man who...was a great guy otherwise but his only flaw is that he makes everyone around him aware that he doesn't date black women.
Some examples:
First, one of the movers when my dad was getting his stuff out of our family home. The mover found my dad's porn stash and let me know. i said "I don't want to know." And he still went on to tell me what kind of porn it was even though I asked him to stop talking about it. I asked him again to stop talking about it but he went on to show me and put the DVDs and tapes in my old room. Later on, one of the other movers was saying that his friend said he would never date Ice Spice. The porn announcer said "I wouldn't know...i don't date black women anyway."
My cousin didn't come to my mom's funeral. He said he hated funerals but he didn't even wish me condolences. I don’t hear anything from him for a while. Then 5 years after my mom dies, he adds me on facebook. I accept and he immediately love reacts to pictures of white and light skinned women in my albums from 2007!! Wow. Still didn't say anything about my mom. I unfriend him and he cries to his mom, my aunt "I don't think [my kid name] likes me." Yeah. I don't. Then I told her about what he did. She said "Oh yeah. He doesn't like black women."
I heard this story on this subreddit but: this woman talked about how she went over her boyfriend's house and it was really disgusting. The toilet seat was broken. There was food everywhere and rats. She pointed out the rats and him and his brothers said "What do you want us to do about it?" Then she overheard his brothers saying they would never date black women.
Doesn't feel like we're missing out on much.
Maybe you’re sitting here like “Duh!” But I’m realizing it’s not just a mere flaw. It’s like one part of the tapestry of a really toxic person.